FOMO: Fun Of Missing Out.
FOMO. Commonly known as the Fear Of Missing Out. But I’d like to redefine it, because there is a lot of Fun in missing out, too.
From the ages of 16-21 I was living in constant FOMO. Going out 4 nights a week seemed reasonable, just in case something exciting happened and I would live the rest of eternity in regret that I had been too lame to go out that one particular night in my teens. What this led to was a serious waste of cash, time and liver health.
At some point I made the decision to step back from an overactive social life and reassess my values. And what I found was that if I spent less time going to every imaginable event, I’d have more time to effect real change in the world.
For me, my FOMO means I see the fun in staying home from another pointless night on the piss to save for a life-changing adventure in a brand new country.
It means working on new initiatives, studying new fields and having less money outgoing so I don’t have to worry so much about bringing money in. I can focus on something more important.
Choosing to say no doesn’t make you an antisocial loser. I think it makes you hella cooler. Who cares what your friends are doing? If they’re your friends, they won’t mind you making alternate plans. You’re not a sheep, you don’t need a herd to lead your way. Do you!
Here are a few mantras to help you in the practice of saying no:
– It’s impossible to miss out, I’m just experiencing something else instead
– Nobody benefits from my exhaustion
– My happiness is more important than impressing others
– The most important item on my to-do list is myself
Choosing Fun instead of Fear is an opportunity to redefine your values and what youthink is fun. It’s a chance to ignore peer pressure and social expectations and live your life in a way that makes sense to you. Do not be driven by fear of “missing out” or being the black sheep. Be driven by things that you actually want and that bring you joy.
This week, say no to something you don’t want to go to. Miss out on one experience for the sake of a better one.